Whether or not we want to admit it, we all need support. In this information age, the internet and slew of apps for everything you can imagine make it seem like your iPhone can be your personal assistant, doctor, trainer, best friend and even therapist. Sure, I love the convenience and utility of all of these "shortcut" tools, but they do not take the place of PEOPLE! When you truly need to talk about the crazy day you had at work, what you want to do with your life, or the amazing salad you created for lunch, the Internet will not listen to you, look you in the eye, and give you the appropriate hug or high five. When you are coughing up a lung and wondering why you haven't stopped sweating for fourteen hours, your phone, even WebMD, cannot (effectively) diagnose or treat you. When you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, an app or website can only take you so far in finding your unique path to true well-being.
Having your go-to team at the top of your mind is so important. These are the people who help you take care of all areas of your well-being: stress-management, productivity, emotional ease, physical health, fitness, career development, FUN, and any other area of your life where you simply can't, and shouldn't, do it alone. When you know who is on your squad, and what their "superpower" is, you can better utilize and appreciate the way their unique skill sets and personalities elevate your life. It's like a race car driver and their pit crew - you can only go out and perform at your best when you have an incredibly gifted team keeping you oiled, repaired and fueled!
So do you know who's on your squad? Who are your MVPs? It may be that you still have some recruiting to do to get you to your dream team. This month I encourage you to start acknowledging and reaching out to those who already have your back, and to start seeking out players to fill any crucial gaps in your web of support. Not sure how to start? Here are a few ways to start rolling deep with your personal pit crew.
Start by listing and acknowledging the people who you already know are on your roster. List your closest friends (the ones who you can share TMI with sans judgment), your most trusted co-workers, any healers you already see (i.e. doctors, therapists, acupuncturists, psychics, massage therapists), folks who keep you looking and feeling fabulous (hair stylists, estheticians, favorite fitness instructors), your consultants (coaches, specifically savvy friends, teachers, mentors) and your biggest fans (significant others, relatives, pets). Next to each person - write a specific way they have improved your quality of life in the past. Then write about how you can show them true appreciation for the difference they've made in your life. Maybe it's writing them a letter, maybe it's giving them an extra tip next time you use their services, or maybe it's just saying "thank you" like you mean it every time you are in their presence. The more you can appreciate the people who help you be your best self, the more connected you will feel with these individuals, and the more likely you will be to reach out when you need their assistance.
2. Identify where you're trying to be a hero.
There may be areas of your life where you feel overextended, lost or just bored. Chances are, there are people out there who you can add to your squad to lighten your load, help you find direction or inspire and ignite you to get up and get out of your comfort zone! Write down some specific things you think could improve your quality of life: organization, stress-reduction, direction in your career, pursuing a creative endeavor, or just having more fun.
For each life-improver you wrote down, write down three people (who you may or may not know already) who could help you implement it in your life. If you feel you could use direction in your career, for example, you may write down "Business coach, professional mentor, my aunt Patricia who has a successful business and knows her shit." Do this for each area you wrote above.
Next step, reach out to the people on your list that you already know. Authentically ask for their assistance by presenting the opportunity you see in your life for growth, letting them know how much you respect and admire them, and humbly requesting to learn from and/or hang out with them! If you are not super close with them already, just express your interest in getting to know them better and suggest grabbing coffee/tea/juice or hitting up an event related to a mutual interest you share. You may find that once you get to know them on a deeper level, they fit into your squad in a way you hadn't expected!
For those areas of your life where you feel you need a true professional hand, reach out to the people already on your squad for recommendations and suggestions about where and how to find the type of person who will best answer your needs. These will most likely be the professional connections (i.e. the ones you pay for), so I suggest prioritizing which professionals you feel would be most beneficial and urgent to enlist. Do your research to make sure the person's services are the right kind for the kind of growth you're seeking. For example, there are lots of business coaches out there who can help you grow your business and get clients and investors, but defining your specific goals and audience and going for a coach who has experience in those specifics, will give you the most bang for your buck.
With love, light, gratitude and #squadgoals,